Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People

Last night, our speaker Bros Flores in Lingkod ng Panginoon- Alabang made a powerful talk tackling the challenge of how to deal with difficult people.

It is easy to love people who are nice to us but how about people who causes us pain. It is easy to feel happy when we see the people whom we love to see. But it is different whenever the person or individual who we irritates us.

Tips:

1. Know the person. Practice empathy. Know where she or he is coming from. From knowing comes understanding. We cannot simply expect everyone to behave the way we want them to act or behave. We cannot change them but we can change the way we resppond to them.

2. Love them. Do not just depend on your capacity to love but from the love that comes from God. Love because it is God who first loved us. How can we also say that we love God if don't know how to love the brothers and sisters whom we can see.

3. Be God's medium to them. We are not Napocor, but we are only Meralco's. The napocor is the source of energy while the Meralco is the transmitter or medium for that energy to light up our homes. Allow God to use you as a vehicle for his love to touch the person who you hate.

4. Be a stepping stone. If you think that you don't have the resources that you need to help the brother or the sister, then let others do the job. Allow them to have an opprotunity to grow in maturity as well. Let those who have the skills needed to do it do the job for you. in other words delegate. Delegate in a loving way

5. Pray. Often than not, we forget to pray. Prayers work!. Let God's grace change the heart of the person whom you are praying. Allow also God's grace to teach you how to forgive and give you the wisdom how to handle this situation.

6. What if you are the difficult person?Then pray to be changed by God. Pray for feedback and ask help from brothers or sisters. Pray for God's love to transform your heart and the humility to accept your being difficult. Then change.

Bros was a former branch leader of Lingkod Alabang. At present, he is a seminarian in the Society of Jesus.

-Yel